Embracing normalcy and fostering inclusivity in remote work

Growing up near Seattle, Spencer experienced a supportive environment that made it easier for him to embrace his identity. "I knew who I was from around age five," Spencer recalls. "I was watching a movie and had a crush on a man, and I knew I wanted that to be my husband." When he eventually came out, his family's reaction was simple and profound—they treated it as normal.

They didn't say I was brave or courageous; they just accepted me as I was. This approach made it easier for other family members to come out as well. My journey encouraged other members of my family to come out, including my wonderful niece. It’s about creating an environment where being different is just another part of being human.

The importance of normalising differences

Spencer’s experience highlights a crucial point: accepting someone’s identity should not be about highlighting their bravery but about treating it as an integral part of who they are.‍

Coming out should be a thing that phases out. It shouldn't be something you have to do. You just like who you like and make it normal."  Spencer emphasises. "The best way to react when someone comes out to you is to treat it as normal because it is. There are many stereotypes, like the misconception that gay men want to be with every straight man, which is far from the truth. Also, there's the outdated belief that only gay people can have HIV. Educating others to dispel these myths is crucial. We don’t need special status or people tiptoeing around us. We just want to be treated like everyone else.‍

This approach removes unnecessary pressure and allows individuals to thrive in an environment where they feel genuinely accepted.

Creating an inclusive workplace

For workplaces to be genuinely inclusive, they need to embrace this philosophy of normalcy. Inclusivity isn't just about having diverse hires; it’s about creating an environment where all employees feel comfortable being themselves. Spencer shared his insights on working in diverse teams and the importance of seeing representation within the workplace.‍

I've thrived in teams where diversity is not just present but celebrated, whether through gender, race, or sexual orientation. Inclusivity means making everyone feel comfortable and valued for who they are. It's about creating a supportive space where people can share their skills, learn from others, and collaborate on exciting projects. Their background shouldn't factor into evaluating the quality of their work. We need to continue normalising differences and promoting a culture of acceptance and understanding.
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‍Remote work has been a game-changer in fostering inclusivity.  Working remotely has allowed Spencer to connect with colleagues from different parts of the world, each bringing unique perspectives and experiences

Working remotely has allowed me to meet colleagues from all over the world. I get to meet Barbara who is in Europe, work with Kyle in Scotland, and Annie in Vietnam. It opens up the whole world to work together and that’s awesome. This global interaction has enriched my work life, making it more vibrant and inclusive.

Challenges and resilience

Despite the progress, challenges remain. Spencer recounts instances where he had to adjust his demeanour based on his audience, often lowering his voice to avoid potential bias.

I've had to speak with a deeper voice when talking to certain people to avoid making them uncomfortable," he shares. "But I've grown more resilient and advocate for myself and others when faced with discrimination. It’s important to have leadership that fosters an inclusive environment and encourages speaking up against biases. The only way to foster a more diverse and inclusive environment is to speak up and challenge the status quo if necessary.

The road ahead

Normalising differences in the workplace is an ongoing journey. It requires continuous effort, open dialogue, and a commitment to creating environments where everyone feels they belong. As Spencer’s story illustrates, when differences are normalised rather than spotlighted, individuals are empowered to bring their whole selves to work, enriching the collective experience for all.

Spencer’s journey and insights remind us that inclusivity starts with treating differences as normal and fostering environments where everyone feels seen and valued. Remote work, with its global reach, provides a unique opportunity to build diverse and inclusive teams. By challenging the status quo and promoting acceptance, we can create workplaces where everyone can thrive.

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